September 5, 2009

  • Wikipedia on Funeral Practices

    "Traditionally etiquette dictates that the bereaved and other attendees at a funeral wear semi-formal clothing, such as a suit and tie for men or a dress for women. The most traditional color is solid black (with a matching solid black tie for men) preferably without any underlying pinstripes or patterns in the weave. But failing that charcoal gray or dark navy blue may be worn. Wearing short skirts, low-cut tops, t-shirts with advertising slogans or suggestive images, or, at Western funerals, a large amount of white (other than a button-down shirt or blouse, a military uniform, or in the Swedish tradition, white ties worn by male members of the immediate family) is often seen as disrespectful.

    "In most East Asian, South Asian and many Southeast Asian cultures, the wearing of white is symbolic of death. In these societies, white or off-white robes are traditionally worn to symbolize that someone has died and can be seen worn among relatives of the deceased during a funeral ceremony. In Chinese culture, red is strictly forbidden as it is a traditionally symbolic color of happiness. Exceptions are sometimes made if the deceased has reached a high age. In this case, the funeral is considered a celebration. Contemporary Western influence however has meant that dark-colored or black attire is now often also acceptable for mourners to wear (particularly for those outside the family)."

    - Wikipedia

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August 31, 2009

  • Are congratulations in order?

    [02:20] AlabasterAndChrome: And now everyone is just going to think you're incredibly witty.
    [02:20] moritheil: Oh man
    [02:20] moritheil: so perfect
    [02:20] moritheil: I'm laughing here
    [02:20] AlabasterAndChrome: Congratulations.
    [02:20] moritheil: And I owe it all to you.
    [02:22] AlabasterAndChrome: No
    [02:25] AlabasterAndChrome: You
    [02:25] AlabasterAndChrome: Are an attention whore

August 30, 2009

  • Health Care Query

    Oeshpdog is asserting that health care for all would be good, and the main objection, as far as I can tell, is that it would use up resources.  Forgive me, but what better use of our resources is there?

August 29, 2009

  • Mori Does Yahoo 17

    My girl's got trust issues with me. Help?

    My, very recent, ex finally confessed that she has trust issues. not only with me but everyone. I am headed off to college in about a month and she doesnt feel as if she can trust me when i go.

    I have NEVER cheated on her, never hooked up with a girl, let alone hang out with another girl on more than just friends basis. She is the only girl i've kissed/hooked up with in my life!!! I text her everyday saying how great she is, the whole ten yards... i do 11.

    I don't see where she can have a problem trusting me, we've had a thing for 9 months and not one thing i've ever done wrong. I wanna bring her to college with me, honestly i think the long distance relationship would profit her alot cuz she likes her space.

    I need help. How can I get her to trust me? anything I can do to get that? we havent talked the past 4 or 5 days and i havent bothered to just yet, dont wanna freak her out ya know? what should i say/do to get her to allow her fellings to come onto me (very guarded girl, doesnt want her heart broken which i'd never think about doing)

    help a man out?

    You strike me, from this rundown, as a good man. Now this means that you aren't the one screwing things up with her.

    What it means is, sadly, you are the clean-up crew. Probably some other guy in her life screwed up her trust and now it's broken, and she wants you to fix it and make her able to trust again. It doesn't have to have been an ex - it could be a friend, a family member - someone betrayed her at one point in time and her reaction was to never want to trust again.

    Unfortunately the mind isn't like surgery: you don't just reach in and rearrange something, and everything heals within a few days. She is the one who has to make that conscious choice to trust, over and over, until it feels natural again. All you can do is keep on being trustworthy.

    And if she doesn't want to be with you despite that, you can't really do anything else.

August 28, 2009

  • The truth of the shovel

    Philosophically, I'm a postmodernist existentialist. Context is king, but context is also arbitrary. A shovel is a tool, not art, but when we put it in a museum as a commentary on the state of art, it becomes art.

    And yet, isn't the truth the truth no matter who says it? The shovel is still the same object. Surely there is no basic physical change that has occurred.  It is only our perceptions of it that have changed.

    Mereologically, of course, there is no such thing as a "shovel"; shovel is shorthand for an arrangement of elementary particles in a fashion that we recognize as such.  The concept of shovel, then, refers to both the particles themselves, and their arrangement - their context.

    So we can't say context doesn't matter at all.  But we also can't say that context is everything, which is what the strict postmodernists do.  That would deny the truth of the shovel.

August 27, 2009

  • Japanese Chainsaw Sculptor

    Yes, he uses a chainsaw to sculpt.  He plays it up for maximum effect, wearing a Jason hockey mask at times.

    The irony is, Kannagi's story consists of a man sculpting a wooden statue which is inhabited by the spirit of a Shinto goddess and comes to life . . . but not like this.

August 26, 2009

  • Harm

    "First," they said, "do no harm."

    And to demur could have harmed someone's feelings, so I kept silent.

    To object to certain assumptions could have harmed the funds available for research, so I said nothing.

    To press a dying man to enroll in a trial could have harmed the feelings of his family.

    To decry a study would have harmed pocketbooks.

    And I, I harmed no one.