Shavanna has a long post about what she terms “butthurt.” I submit that the fundamental issue she wrestles with is, “Does everyone have to make such a big deal out of everything?”
I think especially in American culture, we are bred to acquire pity when we are a ‘victim’ of anything.
Well yes, if soliciting pity is the easiest way to demand agency and change, and everyone else has a thing they get pity for, and you don’t, you are the new second class citizen. You can’t play the game everyone else is playing. Doubly so if the majority is hated and reviled. So everyone scrambles to find a pity-shaped shield to not be hated.
Even in honest discourse, the main problem is that people can’t agree on what does or doesn’t deserve righteous fury. The only way to settle it is to let everyone who is a victim decide for themselves, but then (as she pointed out) some victims are way more affected than others, and make the other victims/survivors feel guilty for not being 100% affected the way they were.
People are looking for justice in an unjust situation.
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cool post./