The whole of human interaction is subject to feedback.
You don’t block an attack that can’t hit you, unless there’s some other compelling reason. This is why a denial, too hot or too sudden, can be as instructive as an outright explanation. When you get shut down (whether for dating, or business deals), there is a reason for shutting you down. If it was never conceivable, no one would take the effort to shut you down – they would just stare blankly or laugh. Being shut down means that you’re within the realm of possibility, but not accepted. This is not a yes/no issue, but a matter of distances in a mental topography that can be charted.
So a line of attack is never wasted. Someone literally cannot respond to it without giving away information.
Yes, this means my advice to everyone is, “Just go up and hit on him/her. You’ll learn a lot.”
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Good advice. Certainly worked with your mom.